While it may seem like the product of the 21st century — teenage girls getting into drama is actually something nature biologically implanted into them. Experts in the area have noted that as soon as most teen girls reach puberty, the gray matter in her head becomes inclined to generate out-of-reality amounts of stress and day-and-night emotions that do not match the circumstance. The outcome of this uncontrollable roller-coaster ride is common quarrels at school or among her peers. It’s important to recognize that her newfound hormonally-derived drama is oftentimes significantly less extreme than she may report. At the end of the day, it’s most important that you help her get through these years unscathed to enjoy a more cool-headed future.
Be a stoic pillar of emotional stability, in an attempt to lead by example. This strategy is recommended by many experts in the field. If your teenage girl comes home from school with stories of hurt feelings or dramatic arguments and issues with friends — it’s really easy to become unnerved and emotionally involved. The temptation to join her team so-to-speak and try to help her in a way that ultimately won’t be productive is high. Instead, it’s important to remain calm. This will eliminate one of the most exciting aspects of being involved in the drama — your attention. Instead positively reaffirm her by taking her qualm and utilizing it as a medium to open up a channel for positive speaking.
Simply giving your child the time of day and letting them speak their piece about the incident will do wonders for enabling closure in their minds. If they are upset about a specific instance, stay calm and have them recount the exact issue. Go over each piece of the story individually by asking questions about the issues and you’ll be more likely to get the unemotional, factual version of the story.
Having your teen take responisbility for being a part of the issue is an important step in resolving the situation. Oftentimes when emotions are at their highest it’s difficult to step outside of the situation and see what was done wrong by all parties. By teaching your child that, more times than not, they are involved in creating a dramatic situation, it gives them an actionable item with which they can change. Otherwise if the issue is purely external and caused by another person they’re powerless in resolving or avoiding conflict in the future.
Go over potential solutions to the issue at large. Try to have your child come up with ways that they could solve the problem. Either in real time beforehand, how they could avoid it in the future, or after the fact. If all else fails, you may need to give them a few days to calm down, and talk to them when cooler heads will likely prevail in conscious thought.